Anonymous: I have step mum and step sisters. I dont think they like me and I dont really like them too. Sometimes I wish my parents will divorce. I told my friend about my problem but I dont think she cares but when she told me about her problems, I always be there for her. What should I do?
Hello!
I think you should try giving your step mum and step sisters a chance. Try to spend time with them, you might find some things in common with them.
and about your friend, you should tell her about how you feel. Try talking to her. If she still doesnt understand, im sure you can talk to your other friends :-D goodluck!
Anonymous: Don't you ever feel like your parents are so choosy between you and your siblings? I get that all the time. If do something to my sister that accidently hurts her feelings, I still get scolded like crap. If my sister does the same, nothing happens. Its so unfair and sometimes my parents don't know this hurts my feelings then when I cry they go stop crying your big already etc etc but sometimes I can't help it. What do I do :(
Hello there!
Well this happens always. Dont take it personally! I am assuming your sister is younger than you, no? Well if she, maybe its because your parents think you should set an example for your sister. Younger siblings tend to look up to their older siblings and your parents want you to be the best example you can be for your sister. If you really cant stand it, try talking to your parents nicely about how you feel. Maybe they do not realize it, but if you tell them, im sure they will :-)
Anonymous: i feel like a disappointment to my mom. every time i do something wrong (not even at a critical point) like get grades below a B, my mom gives me these lectures and threatens to leave the house and what not if i don't get better grades. i don't think i'm spoiled but she thinks i am somehow. there was a time when apparently i did something wrong and she actually left the house but came back about a week after. don't give me all the "your mom actually loves you" stuff because i'm sick of it.
Hi there! First things first, you must know, that you’re not the only reason she gets frustrated and leaves the house. Therefore, just to lighten a bit of her burden, after her stressful day at work, comes to cooking dinner for her children, try not to make her even more stressed or angry. Always pick the right moment to tell her anything. Also, if your relationship is getting from bad to worse, you need to sit down and have a talk with her. Cause it seems like both of you don’t really know what’s going on with each other. Do remember that things might not turn out the way you expect them to be when you have the talk, so be really considerate and it’s important to put aside your anger for a while. Apart from your mom, you always have your dad and siblings to help you out or be proud of you! Though it’s good to fix things with your mom first. I won’t tell you that your mom actually loves you. Instead, I’m just going to say something that is really true, and happens to everyone. When someone scolds you or anything, he/she does it out of love, simply cause he/she cares and only wants the best for you. Don’t take it the bad way ;)
Anonymous: i honestly hate my life. i cry everyday. and my family hates me. and i have no friends. wish that god would just give me a disease like cancer or something. i feel so alone all the time
Hi beautiful! I am pretty sure your family loves you with all their heart! Maybe you tend to see it in a different way, that makes you feel that they hate you miserably. Hey! If you open up your heart, and your eyes just a bit more, you can see how beautiful your life, and the people around you really are. Everybody wants to be friends with everyone! Sometimes we have to admit the fault is in us, that we have to make the effort to make our lives better, cause if not, then who else will? Do know that life is full of challenges, it’s an obstacle. One must not give up when given a challenge. My friend once said, “There’s a law in this universe which God himself has created that when one is tested with great despair or misfortunate, it is actually a way of God to reward you with something much more valuable. Think of it this way, you dont simply get something without doing anything. Sacrifices are needed to be done”. You really have to keep calm, and be optimistic about every thing =) Remember to always solve your problems, rather than running away from them. Please stop praying that you get cancer ;( You would think that it doesn’t make a difference once you’re gone, but trust me, it makes a huge difference! It’s okay. Everything will fall into place, really :) It gets better!
Anonymous: I scare myself sometimes.. I don't know what's happening to me. Its not an emotional breakdown as that only happens once in a while. This is different. I get angry for the littlest of things, cry for the littlest of things. Always. My family gets angry at me for that but I just can't help it. I treat my boyfriend like shit sometimes and I can't do anything about it. Its controlling me and I don't know what else to do. I've been dealing with this since mid november '11. And nothing's working :(
Hi pretty! As a girl, I know how you feel, sometimes we get controlled by our hormones. Not to worry though! Always remember that you are in control of everything. Mind set is really important, so put inside your head that you are in control of your own self, and that you’re strong enough ;) If you’re a muslim, it’s good to take wudhuk in times of need, it’ll really calm you down. If you’re not, hey, pray to God, cause He’s always listening, and always there to help you. You are not alone! Everyone around you can help you one way or another. It takes time, just gotta try hard. Don’t worry, it gets better :)
Anonymous: I have a guy best friend who has just gone through his first break up. He's letting out his feelings to me. He's very depressed but I'm not good at advices. I don't know how to help him.
Hello! First of all, let me just say that, whenever someone lets out their feelings towards you, it does not necessarily mean they’re looking for advice. Sometimes they just need someone to talk to, to listen to them. So it’s good that you’re there for him, makes him feel like he’s not alone, especially after what he has gone through. He’s your best friend! You know him more than anyone else does. You’ll know just the right thing to do =) And hey, even if you feel like you’re not helping him even though you are, he’ll understand, for sure.
Anonymous: recently ive been feeling like my best friend spends more time with her boyf than she does wif her other friends. i knw these stuff happen but ive been feeling pretty left out lately. i have other friends of course but it just isnt the same u noe?
Hi there! Well, for starters, maybe you can talk to your best friend about it. Since best friends tell each other everything right? I’m sure she’ll understand ;) Or you can put in a bit more effort and get to know her boyfriend. It wouldn’t be a problem if all 3 of you are friends now would it? Yes, partners do want their alone time so you should respect that a little bit. But also remember that you deserve your alone time with your best friend as well! If she is not available at the moment, take that as an opportunity to mingle around with your other friends!
Anonymous: I just moved to a new school. And I can see my old friends are like forgetting/ignoring me whenever I wanna talk to them about my problems. I feel really neglected though. What should I do? :(
Hello there! Don’t take this personally, but it seems to me that they’re not much of true friends. If they’re true friends, they should keep in touch with you. They should be listening to your problems. If you still want to keep in touch with them, why not tell them how you feel? On the other hand, I guess the best thing to do is just to make new friends at your new school. I know it can be tough, but try being friendly with your new schoolmates! (-: I’m sure they’ll be glad to make new friends as well as help you with your problems!
Anonymous: I've resorted to cutting and it really helps numbing the emotional pain I have to go through every day, but I know it's not the right thing to do and I really want to stop but I don't see any other way for me to vent my sadness. I do wanna live but I'm not sure if I can really cope anymore bcs I'm tired of crying for 4 months already. Please help me. I'm love-deprived and Idk what to do.
Hi, firstly break ups are never easy. You may think he’s the only source of love but really it’s not. You should realize that your parents and your family love you dearly. There are other options besides cutting yourself, how about writing in your diary or blog? Also, think about all the good things you have in life! Sign up for classes to take your mind off of things. Focus on something really beneficial ;) Don’t worry, it gets better!
